The square peg dilemma

For a while we tried to make something work because we thought 'it is just the way things are done'. We adjusted, adapted, did our best to fit. But no matter how much effort we put in, something always felt off.. like we were squeezing into a mould that wasn’t made for us.

At first we wondered if the problem was us. Maybe we needed to try harder. Be more patient. Be different. But then we asked a different question: What if we’re just in the wrong place?

That shift in perspective changed everything. Instead of forcing what wasn’t working, we looked for where things felt right. Where there was ease. Where we could be ourselves without constantly reshaping to fit expectations. And that’s when we knew it was time for a change.

Practical application:

Lately, I’ve been paying attention to where things flow naturally versus where I feel resistance. If something constantly drains energy or requires me to fight upstream, I pause and ask:

• Is this just a challenge I need to work through, or is it a sign I’m forcing something that isn’t meant for me?


• Do I feel like I can be myself here, or am I always adjusting to fit in?


• If I let go of the pressure to 'make it work,' what else becomes possible?

Making a big change isn’t always easy, but neither is staying stuck in the wrong space. I’ve learned that the right fit doesn’t require constant force.. it just clicks.